زندگى تحت توفيقات اصول اخلاق - مكارم شيرازى، ناصر - الصفحة ١٩٠ - Factors effective in influencing on the hearts

consume thyself, following after them, of grief.. [١]

And we read in respect to the biography of Prophet S. A.

. «وَلا يَأْتِيهِ احَدٌ حُرٌّ اوْ عَبْدٌ اوْ امَةٌ الَّا قامَ مَعَهُ فِي حاجَتِهِ» ..

Whoever came to him, either a freeman or slave andbondmaid, he accompanied him( her )and helped him in his work.. [٢]

٦- The way of reminding mistakes should be so that if theaffections of the other party are not provoked in the favor of speaker, at least they should not be hurt, and thereby the mistakes should be minded indirectly as far as possible.

The phrases like" Don't you think that this is better?"," Isn'tit better to do so?"," I sometimes do so", and such like are allphrases which could be used for reminding the mistakes indirectly.

٧- We shall never provoke obstinacy sense of someoneunduly, and if he insists on a matter which is not the main issueof discussion or criticizes it, we shall coordinate ourselves withhim correctly in the criticism or supporting and defending itinstead of opposition. This makes the other party disarmed andinvites him to more reflection.

For instance, if we what to invite someone to Islam, and findthat he has a negative idea about the Moslems and theirsituation and insists on it, we shall not defend the situation ofMoslems so much. Rather, we too shall coordinate ourselveswith him and mention some basic criticisms( of course, withoutexag geration and indulgence )and then follow our main issue.

[١]TheCavesura (٨١) ,verse ٦

[٢]Majlessi ,BeharolA nvar ,٦٢٢ /٦١