زندگى تحت توفيقات اصول اخلاق - مكارم شيرازى، ناصر - الصفحة ١٧٩ - Shall we be fact seeking or aggressive

you ,gentle to the believers ,compassionate . [١]

If God will, we will later see that being" ear"( credulous ), thatis respecting the speeches of others and not expressing mistrust on them unduly, and also showing mildness, amenity, kindness and sympathy to the others, and assuming their problems as one's own problems, has a profound effect in influencing on the thoughts of others.

As we read in the biography of Prophet S. A.:" He alwayspreceded in saying Salam( hello ), and if someone detained himfor a work, he waited until he was given up, and when someoneshook hands with him, he did not leave him until the other partytook action for disparting, he called even the children with theirnicknames) the best names with Arabs (, and he never sat amonghis companions so that he would have an excellence over theothers ...". [٢]

The effect of each of these moral affairs in impressing uponthe others will be clarified in the next discussions.

٧- It goes without saying that in this discussion, like all socialand objective discussions, one shall never utilize impropermeans and ways for achieving to the goal that is influencing onthe others. Therefore, only the way which is correct by itself, andalso utilized for achievement to a correct purpose should bepresented.

Shall we be fact seeking or aggressive ?

Why we do not succeed in our discussions: We have frequently found following affairs when discussing

[١]Repentancesura (٩) ,verse ٨٢١

[٢]-Extractedfrom Ehyaol Oloum ,٥٦٣ /٢ to ٧٦٣