زندگى تحت توفيقات اصول اخلاق - مكارم شيرازى، ناصر - الصفحة ١٨٥ - Factors effective in influencing on the hearts

٤- Dispute causes misguide( because it excites the sense ofobstinacy, selfishness, and prejudice and thereby covers the visage of truth ).

٥- If dispute is made with the ignorant, it encourages them toviolate the reverence of one's personality and makes theminsolent to him( because when they find their reputation in risk, they will ignore the reverence, which they observed before thelearned in normal conditions ).

For salvation from such great dangers, Islam instructs toavoid discussions and talks having an aggressive, hostile anderistic aspect, and even do not apply this way for proving thetruth.

٢- Stopping selfishnessOne, who wants to influence on the spirit and thoughts ofothers, should never insist them to accept the realities as" an idea belonging to him". Rather, in contrary, he shall try to express the realities absolutely and even as the idea of the other party. Pay attention! As we know everybody loves his ideas like his physic alchildren, and the reason for love and interest in both cases is thesame. His ideas are considered as a part of him just like hischildren, and loving them forms a beam of self- love, which is themost rooted man's instinct. And in contrast, the thoughts ofothers are strange to man like the others' children, andnaturally fail to attract his interest, and even sometimes theyprovoke his competition sense.

Therefore, accepting the realities the way of attainment towhich is through the man's own mind, is much easier and