زندگى تحت توفيقات اصول اخلاق - مكارم شيرازى، ناصر - الصفحة ١٨٩ - Factors effective in influencing on the hearts

is just like seeding in a thorny and brushy land. It often happens that individuals have some complexes, whichare opened, through expressing them, and then they are changedto normal individuals for hearing the truth. We read aboutProphet S. A. and leaders of right guidance A. S. that they grantedan opportunity to the other parties for speaking.

٣- Expressing desire to what the other party likes, andspeaking about those who have a significant share in provokingthe individual's affections. We read about Prophet S. A. thatsometimes when he was alone with some of his companions, heasked them about their family concerns and wife and childrenand whatever they liked.

٤- The admirable or acceptable parts of utterance of theother party should be remarked so that his soul will becomeready for accepting weak points and mistakes of the others.

٥- Practical sympathy, in its real sense, is one of the mostcritical factors in provoking affections of others and makingtheir mental condition ready for acceptance of fundament almatters. If they observe a real sympathy from the speaker, theymay accept his arguments even if they are not completelyacce ptable for them, and make themselves understood that hiscomments are correct and any of his proposals is beneficial forthem.

One of the reasons for wonderful welcome from the speechesof Prophet S. A. was this point that every body recognized him ashis real sympathetic one so that non acceptance of the right wayby some people appeared in the Prophet S. A. as fatal complexes:

فَلَعَلَّكَ باخِعٌ نَفْسَكَ عَلى‌ آثارِهِمْ انْ لَمْ يُؤْمِنُوا بِهذَا الْحَدِيثِ اسَفاً ..

Yet perchance, if they believe not in this tiding, thou wilt