زندگى تحت توفيقات اصول اخلاق - مكارم شيرازى، ناصر - الصفحة ١٨٨ - Factors effective in influencing on the hearts

opposite parts. Rather, he shall attempt to orient the affectionsin the same direction of intellect for supporting intellect's attraction power just like the power of moon in low and high tide, which is sometimes supported by sun's gravitation for being in the same direction, and for attainment to this purpose, following methods should be applied in a bid to provoke affections.

١- Name of everybody is the most favorable word and mostharmonic song for him. So one shall call him respectfully withhis name for provoking his affections, and if he has severalnames, the most interested and respectful name should beselected. We have read in the traditions a man should be calledwith his" nickname". [١]

.( Nickname is the most respectful name

with Arabs ). It is also narrated in respect to tempers of Prophet S. A. thathe called eve rybody with his best name and even selected an appropriate nickname for those lacking any nickname.

٢- First, an opportunity should be granted to the others forsaying their utterances, and one shall carefully listen to whatthey say. This shows that one is really seeking for the fact, andmoreover, he is also sympathetic and assumes respect andreputation for the other party. Each of these aspects has aneffective share in provoking one's positive affections.

On other hand, naturally everyone focuses all of his power inexpression of his idea and arguments, and only intends todivulge what is in his mind, and surely in this condition, he doesnot have any readiness for acceptance of others. So, expressingour own matters and arguments before his complete evacuation

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