مسائل المنتخبه (Articles Of Islamic Acts) - الخوئي، السيد أبوالقاسم - الصفحة ١٣٩ - RECOMMENDED ACTS OF BURIAL

the dead body. Furthermore, persons, other than the near relatives of the dead person, should put the dust into the grave with the back side of their hands and recite the following: Inna lillahi wa innailayhi rajiun. If the dead person is a woman, her mahram and in the absence of a mahram one of her kinsmen should lower her in the grave.
٦٣٧. It Is recommended that the grave should be square or rectangular in shape and should be higher than the ground to the extent of about four fingers breadth, and a sign should be fixed on it for purposes of identification and water should also be sprinkled on it, and then those present should place their hands on the grave and part their fingers and thrust them into earth and recite Surah al-Qadr ٧ times and pray for the salvation of the departed soul and say: Alla humma jafil arza an jambayhi vasad ilayka ruhahu wa laqqihi minka rizwana wa askin qabrahu min rahmatika ma tughnihi bihi an rahmati min siwaka.
٦٣٨. It is recommended that when the persons who escorted the funeral have departed, the guardian of the dead person or the person whom the guardian grants permission should recite the above prescribed supplications for the dead person.
٦٣٩. It Is recommended that after the dead person has been buried the people should condole with the near ones upon death of that person. In case, however, so much time has passed since his death that condolence Is likely to refresh their bereavement it Is better not to condole with them.
It Is also recommended that food should be sent for the members of the family of the deceased for ٣ days. It Is, however, abominable for one to take meal in their presence or in their house.
٦٤٠. It Is also recommended that a person should observe patience on the death of his near ones and especially on the death of his son and, whenever the memory of the departed soul crosses his mind, he should say: Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi